I once worked with a woman who had an extensive history of childhood abuse. She presented to therapy because her current partner was physically and verbally abusing her. It was causing her significant PTSD symptomology and left her just completely bewildered how she could find herself right back in an abusive relationship after vowing to
The popular phrase “opposites attract” can be a bit misleading. On one hand, it is often true. I mean it’s a saying for a reason right?! The reality is that people often are interested in another person with qualities that they themselves don’t possess. For example, if you’re introverted, it’s nice to be with someone
We all have our relationship blind spots. And many times our blind spots are a result of past hurts or experiences in our life. The great news is that we are not imprisoned by our past, we can make changes and the first step in that direction is identifying our issues. So on that note
I think that at one time or another we’ve all been guilty of self-sabotage when it comes to love. That we’ve had a blind spot that we missed and it totally ruined what could have been a wonderful. So I want to put out there the first of four major relationship blind spots you may
If you’ve ever read a self-help relationship book, I can almost guarantee that you’ve heard about relationship skills. I’m talking about communication and conflict resolution skills. These are often the crux of education programs that aim to improve relationships and the topics that fill the vast majority of research articles on relationship success and satisfaction.
Breakups are painful and confusing. All of a sudden, your life is completely different and you now need to deal with everything on your own — including financial matters. Even though your heart is bruised and mind is dazed, you need to take charge of your money and financially get over your ex. This is
In dating we all have this way of rationalizing the worst behaviors and qualities when we are on the verge of a breakup. But some of these rationalizations you really do need to avoid when dating. I’m not sure the exact reason that we do this, but I do know that I’ve heard countless amounts
There are very few decisions in life that are as important as whether or not you get married and to whom you marry. I’m sure so many of you have asked yourself the question, should I get married? The thing is that we all grow up and are led to believe that it’s all fairy
When the excitement of a new relationship fades into frustration, hurt and disappointment you know you may be crossing into break up territory. Or when you are just, for lack of better words, icked out by your partner it may be time to break up. But when you’re living these types of situations, it’s just so
I’ve been inspired by a couple conversations that I’ve had recently about the subject of people making changes in a relationship. The first conversation was with one of my closest friends, whose relationship had just ended because her boyfriend basically felt that if she didn’t want him “as is” then there was no point in continuing their relationship.