When your needs have been neglected for so long, it makes sense if you don't even know what they are anymore. And if you partner repeatedly gets defensive or replies, "I guess I just don't do enough around here" it makes sense that you shut down and stop speaking up.
Does this sound familiar?
You finally get a moment to yourself, but have no idea how to spend it because you don't know what you even need
You feel invisible in your relationship but you don't know what you need to feel better
You worry about being a burden to others if you ask for what you need
You have resentment in your relationship after being back-burnered for way too long
You finally muster up the courage to tell your partner what you need and they just take it personally. So you spend the rest of the discussion reassuring them that they're good enough?!
You tell your partner what you need but every dang time it ends up in the two of you competing about who needs what more?
From Confused to Clear: The Ultimate Guide to Knowing What you Need & Communicate Your Needs With Confidence
You may have received messaging about your needs that may have told you to make your needs small or that you're too much.
It just makes sense that you've absorbed this messaging and you've adapted.
That's the normal response, you make changes in your behavior and stuff your needs which doesn't make them go away, they just get bigger.
Or they get stuffed for so long that you become really out of touch with your needs.
You know something doesn't feel good. Or that you don't feel like yourself or as loved as you want in your relationship, but you just don't know what you need to feel better.
This is why I created two guides to help you identify exactly what you need, get over any hangups you have around needs AND learn how to navigate these tricky conversations.
Because you cannot climb your way out of burnout unless you know what you need.
And you cannot feel cared for and loved in your relationships if you can't get over your hangups around asking for what you need.
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From Confused to Clear: The Ultimate Guide to Knowing What you Need & Communicate Your Needs With Confidence