What to do when you don’t understand your partner’s behavior

Remember these three words: BEHAVIOR IS COMMUNICATION So…. Does your partner go silent during a tough discussion? Does your partner’s tone change when having certain conversations? Does your partner get emotional when you respond in certain ways? Does your partner get defensive when you bring up a complaint? Does your partner reject your bids for

8 Reasons you shut down during arguments

8 REASONS YOU SHUT DOWN DURING ARGUMENTS. Shutting down during an argument happens. It’s normal…sometimes. However shutting down is something that should be an exception to your communication style and not the norm. There are times when shutting down is protective and productive, anyone remember, “when you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything

Are you sabotaging your relationships?: Blind spot #4

I once worked with a woman who had an extensive history of childhood abuse. She presented to therapy because her current partner was physically and verbally abusing her. It was causing her significant PTSD symptomology and left her just completely bewildered how she could find herself right back in an abusive relationship after vowing to

Are you sabotaging your relationships?: Blind spot #3

The popular phrase “opposites attract” can be a bit misleading. On one hand, it is often true. I mean it’s a saying for a reason right?! The reality is that people often are interested in another person with qualities that they themselves don’t possess. For example, if you’re introverted, it’s nice to be with someone