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  • giving too much in your relationship

Are you giving too much in your relationship?

When I worked with college students, I counseled a super bright and just overall pleasant guy. He came to see

How to Speak Up in Your Relationship Without Having a Fight

The dreaded three words “can we talk,” can immediately stir up defenses. Or maybe those words live on the tip

  • I believe in love

I believe in love because it helps people grow

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Hey, we’re Drs. John Van Epp + Morgan Cutlip. We believe in love and so we help people like you feel empowered to fall in love and stay in love without the drama.

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Based on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk will help you break destructive dating patterns that have kept you from finding the love you deserve. In this book you will learn to:

  • Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner
  • Judge character based on compatibility, relationships skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationship
  • Resolve your own emotional baggage so you’re ready for a healthy relationship



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After many dating situations with some real jerks I decided it was time to take action with my teenage daughter.  Taking the How Not to Date a Jerk/Jerkette workshop turned out to be one of the best things she ever did.  The workshop helped her to figure out who she is, what she values, and what to look for in a potential dating partner.  It empowered her to make healthy decisions and helped her to identify the good guys.  I would strongly recommend this workshop for any young person as an extremely beneficial tool to add to their toolbox of relationship skills.

Janelle B. , How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk(ette) Class Participant

After taking your class I am learning to break the cycle and rid myself of those tapes & thoughts that replay over & over in my head about how I don’t deserve to be treated well. I have you in my head reminding me of my worth. I replay everything you taught us back at times when I struggle and I then work through it. Heck I even revert back to the workbook once or more a week.  It was the best money I ever spent on me!!!!   If I hadn’t taken your class I would have continued on in the only vicious cycle I had come accustomed to for so many years.

Krista G. , How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk(ette) Class Participant

My roommate is the daughter of an Air Force Chaplain and she has done the seminar with her family when her dad taught it in Korea. I was on the floor stretching before I went to work out and I looked over at her bookcase and saw your book. I thought it was a funny title and with my past relationship experience I thought “Why not read a page or two?”. 8 hours later I had read it cover to cover. It has inspired me and it has given me so much hope for the future. I’m not looking for anything now because I’m only 19 and I have a whole bunch of crazy I have to deal with within myself before I try for a relationship. But my romantic future doesn’t seem hopeless now. So thank you so much! I’ve been telling all of my friends to read it and I hope they take it to heart because I believe that we should start a new trend of using your heart and mind when it comes to love. So thank you again!

April G. , How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (The Book) Reader

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